During the hustle and bustle, and for the first Christmas since Bronnie died, I asked a question. What if I re-framed the experience?
Wow! I’m writing this on the last day of 2016. And I know the preceding 364 days must have happened because, well, we’re here on the last day of the year. It’s still a little astounding, though, don’t you think?
Granted, my astonishment could be my preoccupation this year of how time is seeming to move much faster. This in direct opposition to my view when younger when time couldn’t move fast enough. I recall wanting to hasten time from the first milestone birthday to leaving home as a ‘grown-up.’ And that has always been my problem, if problem it is, to always be looking to the next thing, the next challenge.
Although that changed a little in the dwindling embers of 2016.
The epiphany was when I took a trip into the city a week before Christmas – on a Saturday. (I know.) Of course the city was losing its mind and I was losing mine with the city, but it was festive and picturesque, and the same scene in a movie would be exciting more than annoying.
During that hustle and bustle, then, and for the first Christmas since Bronnie died, I asked a question. What if I re-framed the experience?
This re-framing and embrace of the season changed Christmas for me. The fake-it-until-you-make-it cheery smile and active involvement soon became a real smile, real enjoyment.
Having made do in recent time with a passable tree and some lights, I set about dressing the apartment. I used my creativity and remembered joy to make the place ‘Instagram-ready.’ (Sorry, kids, I promise that’s the last time I’ll use that phrase.)
And for the first time in a long time I felt genuine happiness.
Suffice it to say, I am having the best holiday season and New Year run-up.
And we get it, don’t we? The notion of stopping to embrace the moment, to smell those proverbial roses. Yet it is only this year I’ve come to realise ‘getting it’ and doing it yield quite different results. Who knew?
So Happy New Year’s eve and all of that, and may you and yours find a place of your happiness in 2017.